"The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together."

Welcome to the Healthy Relationship Questionnaire. This tool is designed to help you and your partner assess and strengthen the key components of your relationship. By exploring areas such as communication, trust, respect, support, and shared values, you'll gain valuable insights into the strengths of your relationship and areas where there may be opportunities for growth.

Please take some time to individually answer the following questions honestly and thoughtfully. Consider journaling your responses to facilitate deeper reflection. After completing the questionnaire, schedule a dedicated discussion with your partner to openly share and discuss your thoughts. This process is intended to deepen your understanding of each other and cultivate a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship together.

Personal Reflection

Begin by individually answering each question. Take your time to reflect honestly on your experiences and feelings.

Journaling

Write down your responses in a journal. This allows for deeper introspection and provides a record of your thoughts.

Partner Discussion

After completing the questionnaire, set aside dedicated time to discuss your responses with your partner. Share your answers openly and listen to each other with empathy and understanding.

Identify Strengths and Areas for Growth

Together, identify the strengths in your relationship and areas that may need improvement. Use this discussion to develop strategies for enhancing your relationship.

Action Plan

Create an action plan based on your discussion. Set goals and decide on specific steps to address any concerns or to further nurture your relationship.

Tips for a Productive Discussion

• Choose a Comfortable Setting: Find a quiet, comfortable space where you can talk without interruptions.

• Practice Active Listening: Listen to your partner without interrupting and acknowledge their feelings and perspectives.

• Stay Positive: Focus on constructive feedback and avoid blame or criticism.

• Be Open and Honest: Share your thoughts and feelings openly, and encourage your partner to do the same.

• Follow Up: Revisit the questionnaire periodically to track progress and make adjustments as needed.

By journaling your answers and discussing them with your partner, you can gain valuable insights into your relationship and work together towards a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

Communication

1. How comfortable do you feel expressing your thoughts and feelings to your partner?

2. Do you feel listened to and understood when you talk to your partner?

3. How do you and your partner handle disagreements or conflicts?

Trust

4. Do you trust your partner to be honest and faithful?

5. Are you confident that your partner supports your personal growth and goals?

6. How often do you feel the need to check on your partner’s whereabouts or activities?

Respect

7. Do you feel that your partner respects your opinions, even when they differ from theirs?

8. Are your boundaries and personal space respected in the relationship?

9. Do you feel valued and appreciated for who you are?

Support

10. Does your partner support you emotionally during difficult times?

11. How often do you and your partner encourage each other’s dreams and ambitions?

12. Are you both willing to compromise to support each other’s needs?

Equality

13. Do you feel that decision-making in your relationship is balanced and fair?

14. Are household responsibilities and tasks shared equally?

15. Do you both have an equal say in financial matters?

Independence

16. Do you both maintain individual interests and friendships outside the relationship?

17. How do you feel about spending time apart from your partner?

18. Are you supportive of each other’s need for personal space and alone time?

Conflict Resolution

19. How do you typically resolve conflicts or disagreements?

20. Do you feel that conflicts are resolved in a way that is satisfactory for both of you?

21. Are there any patterns of behavior during conflicts that concern you?

Affection and Intimacy

22. How often do you and your partner show physical affection?

23. Do you feel emotionally connected and intimate with your partner?

24. Are your needs for physical and emotional intimacy being met?

Boundaries

25. Are your personal boundaries respected in your relationship?

26. How do you communicate your boundaries to your partner?

27. Do you feel comfortable setting and enforcing your boundaries?

Shared Values and Goals

28. Do you and your partner have shared values and long-term goals?

29. How do you work together to achieve common objectives?

30. Are there any significant differences in values or goals that concern you?

Forgiveness and Patience

31. How do you handle mistakes or misunderstandings in your relationship?

32. Are you able to forgive each other and move forward?

33. How patient are you with each other’s shortcomings?

Laughter and Fun

34. How often do you and your partner engage in fun activities together?

35. Do you enjoy each other’s company and share laughter regularly?

36. How important is having fun together in your relationship?

This questionnaire can help you reflect on various aspects of your relationship and identify areas that may need attention or improvement.